Relationships, Charisma and YOU!

Relationships, Charisma and YOU!

By

Steven L. Keough a.k.a. Coach Steve (MC², MBA)

Question: Where does everything you want to get out of life come from?

Answer: Everyone else!

Many times at events people will come up to me after being on stage and teaching/training and say "Wow, you make that look so easy up there, isn't it hard and how do I get charisma like that?" Of course I'm flattered by that acknowledgement, but honestly I wasn't always like that. You can ask my personal coach from about ten years ago. I was a bit numb, still a little angry over my second divorce and not really interested in hearing the relationship mumbo jumbo.

But then I listened to her and realized I was not where I wanted to be and maybe, just maybe she was right, I wasn't connecting with people, maybe I didn't have any relatedness. I had to go into discover mode for myself. Could it be that I was a cold hearted a#@hole? In a word: yup!

Ouch, "How did that happen?"

You see that is what we do, our little voice wants the answer, but it doesn't really matter how or when, etc. I never did figure out when, but I DEFINITELY figured out how to fix it. And that little adjustment came from personal coaching, from my life coach! Otherwise I'd likely still be floundering, because I had spoken before you know, but no one every came up to me after???

I couldn't have learned that lesson from my business coach or executive coaching. I probably could have from a relationship coach or even a self help book if I could have spotted it. But I couldn't spot it, it was a blind spot, and it required life skills coaching to uncover. Once my coach got me crystal clear how important relationships were in life and business I woke up and started working very hard on it.

You can too! My life coach asked me "Do you know Anthony Hopkins?" you know, from Silence of the Lambs, and I said "Of course!" She said "That man walks into a room and I 'm telling you Steve you feel his presence, you need to be like him." And I thought, she's friggin crazy, but I'll try anything. So I studied him, and to my shocking surprise she was right. She then gave me a little free coaching, she said I want you to somehow meet Anthony Hopkins face to face.

I was living in LA then so it was pretty possible, so I took on the training-coaching challenge and went to the Magic Castle where I found out he was making a cameo appearance. When I saw him, without any fear at all (and that is how you do things when you want something) I walked right up to him and said "Mr. Hopkins, it's my pleasure to meet you sir, my name is Steve Keough!" He waited for a second (which seemed like an hour) and said "Thank you Mr. Keough, but Steve I must tell you the pleasure is all mine." in his British accent. Now follow me here, I'm a man's man and I love women, but if I ever thought about switching sides, it would have been right then, this man was utterly amazing. In 15 words had me falling all over myself. It was incredible and never would have happened without my coach challenging me. She's amazing!

After I met him I took on the work, I watched tons of film of men being gentlemen, gentle, vulnerable, open, sensitive, all the kinds that we were told as kids (after age 5) that we weren't supposed to be. Now as an adult I realize that all I'm trying to do is get back to that peaceful, pure and innocent 5 year old who could do no wrong and saw the world as a huge playground.

That's likely you too. You can have amazing relationships, in fact you must. If you don't you'll have few friends, a tiny inner circle, perhaps family members who don't talk to you, or in my case my own daughter wouldn't talk to me (the only thing more painful than that must be the loss of a child to death), your world is incredibly small, coworkers don't relate to you, you don't do a whole lot other than work, you wish others might notice you, involve you or comfort you when you need it. You wish someone would hold you and hug you tight, bring you flowers, caress your neck, do one of your chores for you, wash your car, you know what I mean here.

So what are you waiting for? Let's look at business, there are trillions of dollars changing hands daily and your share is a good indicator of who is trusting you. You broke? I'll bet your relationships suck too then. You happy? I'll bet you aren't broke and your relationships are at least mediocre if not good. Remember, EVERYTHING you get in this world comes from somebody else. You absolutely MUST have GREAT relationships and the only way to get those is to know how and work it every single day, all the time, but the secret is doing it naturally.

Later there will be a special offer to try or experience coaching, which may be your very first newly trusted relationship (because you can't BS your coach-at least a great one). If your relationships suck, your life sucks, so I urge you to look at relationship coaching. I wish I did, it would have saved me years of struggles and I would have been happy soooooo much sooner!

Since I met Sir Anthony, I have gone on, as a challenge to meet others such as Eddie Murphy, Keanu Reeves, Yvanna Trump, Christie Brinkley and Anderson Cooper, then after the Hollywierd crown I went to meet the speaker circuit; Brian Tracy, Tony Robbins, Les Brown, Marshall Silver and many more and then to interesting people like showgirls, stuntmen, a karate champion, pro athlete's agents, and then to regular people at events when I worked for T. Harv Eker at Peak Potentials, many people would come up and talk to me when I got off stage of the Millionaire Mind Intensive stage.

Then Mr. William Shatner of Star Trek Fame (now the characters are cartoon figures???) approached me about The Heartbeat of America show and I met Francisco Dao of Inc.com and together we forged a great business, a ton of success, and an abundance of happiness and it all came from the same place, these relationships that I had with these new people in my life.

You can have that too! You can benefit from LEARNING how to deal with people in general, and ATTRACTING them to you like a magnet. It can be a learned skill and the lucky have it naturally, but most of us don't. We need action coaches, career coaches, business coaches, life coaches or relationship coaches to get it learned, so we can benefit from it. Benefits come many ways: with loving relationships, with charisma, in business deals, forging new partnerships, joint ventures, dating, finding the love of your life, finding what you are passionate about, tons of things benefit from be open, caring, connected and free. Look into it, give it a try, and watch how the caterpillar (numb and cold hearted) TRANSFORMS into the butterfly (caring, connected & free). This could be the best thing that ever happens to you, don't wait - ACT ON THIS NOW!!!

To Your Greater Success!

Much Love to YOU and your family…Coach Steve

ps... If you would like to meet with one of my relationship coaching team members to see in more detail how deep relationships can help you in your life, then contact our office as we have a special offer for you. Don't wait any longer, make Sir Anthony Hopkins proud. Welcome...

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Don’t tolerate this in your life! Our certified and extremely experienced coaches are masters at helping folks just like you. They deliver our coaching system consistently and with ease. You won’t even recognize yourself after being coached with us. We expect you will be happier, healthier and on your way to becoming financially free once you start your journey with us. And the only thing holding you back right now is you!

So, here is an offer that we think even you would say “I’d have to be absolutely crazy not to take you up on this offer and solve this challenge in my life once and for all."

So what’s the lesson here? The lesson is you don’t have to tolerate this any longer! Please, learn from other people’s failures by leveraging their painful lessons to your advantage so you don’t have to endure this hardship for another second. You can avoid many of the common mistakes almost every single person makes by having a coach nearby to help you navigate life.
You are at a crossroad if you have read down this far. Don’t bail on yourself now. Take Action!

About Coach Steve

Steven L. Keough or Coach Steve as he prefers is the Founder & CEO of his coaching company Straight Forward Coaching, an Internationally recognized coaching enterprise. Coach Steve operates four very busy companies: of course Straight Forward Coaching, CoachingProducts.org (North America), CoachingProductsInternational.org (Overseas Operations and Non-English Speaking Products), and finally Business Coach Alliance for the training of coaches to be better certified coaches. Yes, we actually train many of the coaches that most organizations will hire.

Steve is also a multiple book Author (5 at this time), Handbook Author (24 at this time), Home Learning Course Creator (4 at this time), Speaker, Trainer and Master Certified Coach himself, a product of the product, and most proud to be a Coaching Curriculum Developer, changing thousands, if not millions, of lives for the better with his materials. He has coaches people for nearly two decades and has amassed over 20,000 hours of coaching individuals and businesses! Certified in 12 different coaching distinctions, Coach Steve’s books are best-sellers and his materials have been translated into multiple languages and are available in over 100 countries!

Visit Coach Steve at www.stevekeough.com or call 1-888-341-Coach (2622).

Overwhealm vs Balance

Steven L. Keough a.k.a. Coach Steve (MC², MBA)

If you are not in overwhelm what are you in? Are you perfectly balanced?

The very last thing you want is a life of "overwhelm" and this blog posting will help clear that up for YOU!

I've always found it fascinating that in the dictionary, at least mine, there is no term of "whelm" or "under-whelm", there is only overwhelm. Interesting to notice that the scholars immediately jump to overwhelm as it relates to the word and describing it in our everyday lives. Most people, based on my 17 years of coaching them, are suffering from some form of overwhelm when I take them on as a client. The normal complaint is "too much to do and not enough time to do it."

That same dictionary defines overwhelm as "to crush, to overpower and to bury beneath." OUCH! If anyone is living a life like that they need help and they need it NOW! Here's how my clients have defined it. I'm "tired, exhausted, have too much to do, have no free time, can't bear the thought of it, I'm frozen, paralyzed, stuck, and on and on. "How did this happen to me?"

A better definition might be "being out of balance with time". You see, overwhelm seems to always be associated with time, time use, time planning, time, time, time! This is why I stress to my clients that time is MORE valuable than money, because if you are out of balance and you burn time, you NEVER get it back. Feeling that deficit in your makeup you try to cram more into the day, creating your own chaos, and then feeling a bigger deficit, so you cram more, and so on.

Honestly, it is just a bad habit that his lived way too long in your life and needs to be replaced.

Is there really not enough time? How does someone, other than you, get so much done? Is it possible they know something you don't know? Do they have a system for it? Is there a secret?

The secret is YOU are allowing it to happen to YOU! Most people I know don't protect their boundaries very well. They are afraid they will offend somebody by saying "No", "Not Yet" or "Not Now." But in that process of having the "image" of being a nice person, you are driving yourself toward overwhelm rather than to ??? Oh, there is no whelm or underwhelm, so um driving yourself toward......... the frickin nut house. That image is killing you. Yes, you are a "nice person" on the outside, but you're a mess on the inside. I'm not saying to be a jerk, just gently learn to say No, Not Yet or Not now. Can't do it? Then you are doomed to a life of more overwhelm, simple as that. Do you really wish to live that way? Of course not, so the question becomes how to get off the exercise wheel, to stop running from thing to thing to thing?

This is a habit that likely took a long time to create and there could be some underlying factors connected to this such as low self-respect (boundary holding) or a need to please others, but whatever it may be, you can get balance back in your life! How can you do this, easy with a coach helping you to see what today might be a blind spot for you due to all your running around.

Not to sound self-serving, however take myself for instance. How can I run four companies, internationally, write my articles, books, handbooks, blogs, etc. and NOT feel overwhelmed? I have balance! I have a system. And I'm not very disciplined of a person, I just know my system. I know that it works so I stick to it, and know that I'm not interested in any other or new systems. Now I must admit, over the years I have tried a zillion systems until I created this one about 15 or 18 years ago, and now I am happier, healthier and able to do so much more to maintain my freedom, especially my financial freedom which comes from wealth building. I HAVE TO have that time to wealth build or I'll have the opposite; wealth depletion time (overwhelm) where we sit around and do nothing, or numb out watching TV, or sleep our lives away. Or worse, start to worry or doubt, which eventually lets fear creep into my existence.

None of us want or need any of that. What we need is a good guide to follow to stay in balance and remain powerful and in control of our days, and our lives. You very own private and personal coach is there to support you to knock out the overwhelm and get you back in balance.

What can be done for you to eliminate overwhelm? How can you eradicate it once and for all from your life? Can you do it alone? I think not and that's why I spent so much time covering this with my coaches recently. I, and they now too, completely understand what it is like "trying" to live life in the "fast lane." It's too crazy, you "feel" out of control and eventually you shut down. That shut down is your brain (protective device) and your body (mentally induced exhaustion) saying enough! But through a series of exercises and reinforcement of a newly structured system for balance creation and strengthening you to politely say "no, not now and not yet" you gain control of things and the "feeling" of overwhelm gets replaced with another feeling, whatever that may be.

In summary, your bad habit gets replaced with a good habit and your bad feelings get replaced with new feelings. Sound good? Sure, so look below and perhaps take advantage of our coaching offer for this blog posting.

To Your Greater Success!

Thanx…SLK


A Unique Opportunity

How can we help with this? As you may know, I have set up a worldwide organization of coaches to assist people with the most persistent of challenges. These coaches have been hand picked by me, personally trained by myself as well and are held to the highest possible standards of delivery. You don’t have to go it alone and you don’t need to be ashamed or embarrassed about these challenges. We all face challenges! The question is “What will you do about it?” And we are here to help make sure you are Happier, Healthier and Financially FREE!

A Special Offer

Don’t tolerate this in your life! Our certified and extremely experienced coaches are masters at helping folks just like you. They deliver our coaching system consistently and with ease. You won’t even recognize yourself after being coached with us. We expect you will be happier, healthier and on your way to becoming financially free once you start your journey with us. And the only thing holding you back right now is you!

So, here is an offer that we think even you would say “I’d have to be absolutely crazy not to take you up on this offer and solve this challenge in my life once and for all. We are offering you two months of coaching for the price of one (BOGO) and that is unheard of in this industry, but we want you to get a jump start at getting that overwhelm under control. Normally our fee for that month would be $597 for one month, and with that BOGO that we be for two months, but I said crazy so I'm dropping the price to $297 or 50% off the one month, but I'll be giving you two! And I'm not done yet either. For taking action you'll also receive my audio workshop called "What's Holding You Back?" as it is the most downloaded of all my materials. And to make it completely ridiculous, my Office Manager is going to kill me but, You can make it in two payments of $148.50 each. I can't make it any easier than that, so take advantage of me and go for it, of course you always have our 30 day Money Back Guarantee to eliminate risk!

So what’s the lesson here? The lesson is you don’t have to tolerate this any longer! Please, learn from other people’s failures by leveraging their painful lessons to your advantage so you don’t have to endure this hardship for another second. You can avoid many of the common mistakes almost every single person makes by having a coach nearby to help you navigate life.

You are at a crossroad if you have read down this far. Don’t bail on yourself now. Take Action!

To take advantage of today's offer, contact HQ at 888-341-2622 or 778-278-2622!

About Coach Steve

Steven L. Keough or Coach Steve as he prefers is the Founder & CEO of his coaching company Straight Forward Coaching, an Internationally recognized coaching enterprise. Coach Steve operates four very busy companies: of course Straight Forward Coaching, CoachingProducts.org (North America), CoachingProductsInternational.org (Overseas Operations and Non-English Speaking Products), and finally Business Coach Alliance for the training of coaches to be better certified coaches. Yes, we actually train many of the coaches that most organizations will hire.
Steve is also a multiple book Author (5 at this time), Handbook Author (24 at this time), Home Learning Course Creator (4 at this time), Speaker, Trainer and Master Certified Coach himself, a product of the product, and most proud to be a Coaching Curriculum Developer, changing thousands, if not millions, of lives for the better with his materials. He has coaches people for nearly two decades and has amassed over 20,000 hours of coaching individuals and businesses!
Certified in 12 different coaching distinctions, Coach Steve’s books are best-sellers and his materials have been translated into multiple languages and are available in over 100 countries! Visit Coach Steve at www.stevekeough.com or call 1-888-341-Coach (2622).